A Mother and a Wife

I have been thinking today about my responsibilities as a wife. I think an important key to good mothering has to do with the kind of spouse you are. While chasing my child, I can't leave my husband behind. I believe that the more stable and happy my relationship with my spouse is, the more stable and happy my whole family will be. The parents are the foundation for the family and if their relationship is not strong, the family weakens. Because of this, my husband should be my priority, and my relationship with him should be paramount. Obviously there will be times when my children will come first because they are so young and dependent. In fact, most of my time will have to be devoted to my children. However, in my day to day hurrying to meet their needs I can't forget my spouse; I can't forget his needs and I can't forget to devote a portion of my day to meeting those needs. Yes my children will keep me busy and yes the work I do with them is extremely important. But my husband likewise is giving his all for our family in a different way. He's working, he's going to school, he's gone most of the day making sure that his family has food on the table, a warm place to live, and clothes on their backs. He's giving his all just as much as I am. These sacrifices we are both making are only worthwhile so long as we are in it together. And being in it together means that we must keep our own relationship strong. We must put each other first. I believe as I put my husband first my children will not feel less secure, but more secure. My husband and I will provide the foundation they need to stand strong in a weakening world.